I was chugging through my day today when a message was sent to this website, Diary of a Predator, that stopped me in my tracks:
“So this morning i woke up, and thought ‘valentines day’ then thought ‘ugh. Brent Brents’. I did a search and found your site & book.
7 years ago today i had my near-brush with him… I had just gotten back in town from a vacation and had no idea there was a serial rapist in denver/cap-hill. It was valentines day and I was driving to my boyfriends house with a gift and expecting to have dinner.
I cut through the neighborhood behind Cheesman, and stopped at a 4-way-stop like no other. The victimized grandmother flagged me down and i let her in my car, and that night turned into something crazy.. As you know BB affected a lot of people, even me.. my world was messed up and i left that night scared, upset, and mad at myself for not doing or trying to do any more that night.. I hate valentines day, and i know why. But i don’t dare complain too much because what i went through doesn’t compare to what any of the victims went through. i’ll never forgive myself for not doing more.
I guess the point of my email is to ask if you know if the Grandmother and 2 grand-daughters are ok now?
And I replied:
My first reaction to your note was, Bless your heart. And yes, he certainly did affect a lot of people, and I can certainly understand that you’ve never forgotten that night. That’s a very traumatic experience. And it doesn’t take away from anything any of the victims went through to acknowledge that. You don’t have to have the traumatic event happen to you in order to be deeply affected by it–there is such a thing as secondary post traumatic stress disorder, and that comes from witnessing someone go through a horrible event. It sounds like you did everything you could to help the grandmother, and that there’s some “survivor’s guilt” there. Just my observation.
To answer your question, no, I don’t know how the grandmother and two girls are doing today–while I was still at the Post, the family declined contact, and I respected that with the book, feeling that to contact them would be invading their privacy. I let the Denver DA’s office know before the website went up and the book came out so that they could give the victims a “heads up” about it. I do stay in touch with one of his victims, a woman from Aurora named Margaret, and life is a struggle for her every day. So yes, there’s a lot of residual damage.
It’s all so very sad.”
-And then I asked Alain if I could post his comment, and he gave me permission. And he ended his email with this:
“And ignore the haters that are mad at you for trying to understand BB, you really are giving the world a better insight to why people become what they are. Understanding & knowledge are power to change the future.”
-And so I’m left with this thought: Bless your heart, Alain. And thank you.